Setting Yourself Up For Success

Just before COVID-19 fundamentally disrupted the workplace, I decided to resign from the first office job I’ve held since February 2018 on the basis that it wasn’t a good fit for someone like me with Idiopathic Hypersomnia. When we talk about disability in the workplace, the conversation revolves around disclosure and accommodations. Like people of…

The Question I Forgot to Ask

As I navigate self-partnering, I often find myself searching for the blueprint to a fulfilling relationship. A book written by a woman more wise than me, or less distracted by the fairy tale dust mixed among the residue of her childhood dreams. My Mother never misses a moment to remind me exactly what she thinks…

April 4, 1968

Martin Luther King Day was designated a federal holiday by former President Ronald Reagan, out of all people. The same Reagan who was responsible for the disappearance of public mental health services and a rapid increase of nonviolent drug offenses leading to incarceration with his expansion of the war on drugs. Why would a man…

for girlhood

There’s a tradition of boy measuring its proximity to man by the bodies of girls forced to become women too soon, indentured teachers of the sons they bore, the brothers they loved, vessels for their not always unintentional mistakes. There’s a tradition of girl measuring its proximity to woman by the suns until the womb…

To The Decade of Perfecting Vision

Most people who read a lot early in life don’t have perfect vision. Staring at things close to you from a young age compromises your ability to see the signs, and the white board, and the fictional worlds setting the stage for a early addiction to escape. Dorky glasses and all, I pleaded with the…

Why We Love Marvel

I used to think breakups were hard for the love lost, but now I know the sadness is a side effect of a common sin: burying inner problems deep in the demands of a new relationship. I have been avoiding myself longer than I have ever tried to know myself. Avoiding anything that would cause…

For Juneteenth

Today marks much more than the 154th anniversary of Union ships entering Texas to inform those still enslaved of their freedom from bondage. It is, and has always been, another duality of celebration and grief for Black Americans. How can we celebrate the end of slavery in the States when we still have not fully…

Finding Detroit

I made the decision to move to Detroit on the wings of my new relationship. Detroit, the place where my Mother grew up, where my Grandmother went to work for decades, where my Grandfather died sending rifts through a family Elmer’s glued together. A place beloved and feared as a Murder Capital. A placed debate…

Learning to Accept Silence

I am often resistant to accepting advice from others. Like Prince, I perform a graceful embodiment of an air of casual arrogance – a talent, I think, as women continue to face pressure to be overtly malleable especially to the opinions of men and men-centric society. Every once in a while, however, there is a…